I’m pretty glad I don’t have a television right now. I planned on watching the VMA’s, but I am certainly glad I didn’t. Tackiness was at an all time high this year. Most awards shows have become nothing more than orchestrated media stunts to gain views, and no longer place emphasis on artistic quality. From Taylor Swift being her normal self to Kanye West acting out (What’s new?), from Miley’s crazy antics and her Nicki Minaj beef, to Justin Bieber crying, and to Rebel Wilson’s play on Black Lives Matter- ugh. I could probably dedicate a whole post to everything that was wrong with the VMA’s this year, but I think we all should be spared.

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So changing the subject, celebrity best friends Amber Rose and Blac Chyna showed up to the VMA’s wearing skintight outfits with brightly colored derogatory slurs. Both women, known primarily by their previous occupations and dating history, have been constantly called the names presented on their bodies. In my eyes, I saw that Amber and Chyna were embracing the negativity that is throw at them every single day. The bold outfits made it onto the Facebook trending list, so I decided to check out the comments sections of most major news pages. Not surprisingly Amber and Chyna were called attention-seekers, immature, jealous (of what? Never mind.), and even further described as the names they were wearing. Despite their overt sexuality, do they deserve it? No.

Most women today just can’t seem to win. You’re called a prude if you don’t want to subject yourself to your sexuality. You’re called a slut if you embrace it. In cases such as that of Amber’s and Chyna’s, there is just no pleasing everyone. They’re called golddiggers and unfit mothers, but both of them have their own money and are taking care of their sons. You don’t see people bashing Wiz Kalifa and Tyga for being “sluts” (or whatever the male equivalent) or unfit fathers. They have carried on with their lives and don’t seem to be facing any kind of repercussions.

In a society that glorifies all things sexual, we also demonize all things sexual at the same time. Why do we slut-shame and blame women so much? The same men who cast their stones are often the very same men hiding in the dark of strip clubs, or sitting behind a closed door, watching videos on Pornhub. Society teaches women not to dress inappropriately to avoid getting raped, but teaches us that “boys will be boys.” Society wants a woman to be an object of lust, yet shames the same women that embody that ideal. When a man is sexually promiscuous he is praised, but when the same goes for a woman, she is stigmatized. At the same time, women can be extremely hateful towards each other. We are quick to give the side eye to someone we deem as loose, or even better: someone who poses a threat to us.

In praise of Amber Rose, she has been very vocal in the feminist movement. She is constantly trying to encourage women to embrace themselves and work hard. Yes, she and Chyna were strippers, but sometimes you have to make a living, and that still doesn’t warrant the horrible name calling. This October Amber Rose will be hosting a Slut Walk in Downtown Los Angeles to bring awareness to gender inequality, slut-shaming, and victim blaming. I’m hoping the walk is successful and sheds some light on issues facing women today so we can move one step closer to equality.

Unfortunately as I write, the website for the Amber Rose Slut Walk appears to be broken- so I cannot provide a link to it. But you can google it for more information.

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